my gender
These are the trappings of an agendered, nonbinary, queer fat femme who works in the sex industry.
Essays
The Frontlines of the War On Sex are Being Fought by Sex Workers, and We Are Fighting The Battle of a Lifetime Right Now.
Some things you must know about before you can understand this essay would be What FOSTA Is, and What Sex Work is. I no longer have the bandwidth to cover these things anew in my writing so follow along as best you can, or go read up a little first and come back. Your choice. … Read more The Frontlines of the War On Sex are Being Fought by Sex Workers, and We Are Fighting The Battle of a Lifetime Right Now.
Pop Pornography: A Party with Cardi
The set began with the recorded intro from “Get Up 10” coming through the sound system while Cardi B’s dancers took formation on the dark stage at the Hard Rock Hotel’s smallest venue, Vinyl. The song is one of the notoriously omnisexual musical artist Cardi B’s sex worker manifestos; describing how stripping saved her from … Read more Pop Pornography: A Party with Cardi
I’m A 90’s (Porno) Bitch
Introduced to the birth of internet porn around the birth of my own puberty, I used to encounter porn (Pamela Anderson’s sex tape, Girls Gone Wild among the most common) in the forms of public freebies on early websites or in file sharing chat rooms on IRC. Before the internet entered my life I was … Read more I’m A 90’s (Porno) Bitch
Stigma and the shaping of the porn industry
2016 Porn Studies Volume 3, Issue 2: Porn Labor, Stigma and the shaping of the porn industry
Porn’s New Key Words: Feminist Porn Conference 2014 KeyNote
I can see how doing a “keynote” at such a young age could be a set-up for disaster, but all in all I think some of these ideas make sense to me while others need further consideration. It’s a moment in time where I felt like those using the “ethical porn” and “feminist porn” labels … Read more Porn’s New Key Words: Feminist Porn Conference 2014 KeyNote
Finding Gender Through Porn Performance
Originally printed in the debut issue of the academic journal Porn Studies, reprinted on Huffington Post. Queer porn means different things to different people – but to me, it means porn that is out of the box, out of the closet, and shamelessly sex-positive. Queer porn’s endless combinations of genders and sexualities allow its performers … Read more Finding Gender Through Porn Performance
How Growing Up Riot Grrrl Informed my Art/Porn/Work/Whatever
I found riot grrrl the summer after a shitty freshman year at high school. I was really smart but none of my teachers took me seriously. All my friends were stoner dropouts on the corner and because they were my friends, and i was out as bisexual, and looked like a punk, i was treated … Read more How Growing Up Riot Grrrl Informed my Art/Porn/Work/Whatever
The Truth About Fisting
People of all genders and sexual orientations can participate in fisting and enjoy fisting. Heterosexuals do it. Gay men do it. Lesbians do it. Trans people do it. Some people can do it to themselves. Ignorance often presents itself as an absence of representation. In the same, bigotry and hateful actions and words often come from … Read more The Truth About Fisting
A DIFFERENT KIND OF SEX TOY REVIEW: SISTERHOOD OF THE TRAVELING STRIPPER HEELS
I have quite the history in the adult industry. I’ve been a phone sex slut, a pornographer, a web cam girl (not sharing that link!), an advertising manager for the now-defunct On Our Back Magazine, a sex educator for Good Vibrations, a peepshow girl at the Lusty Lady… That’s where this little tale begins. Some of my favorite shoes have … Read more A DIFFERENT KIND OF SEX TOY REVIEW: SISTERHOOD OF THE TRAVELING STRIPPER HEELS